Children that are adopted are generally adopted as infants or while very young. Most adoptive parents want a baby but this is not always the case. There are times when the child is older and has been in foster care homes for a while. Consequently they have their own issues to deal with. They do not always fit in with their classmates because of the family situation. They tend to harbor anger at the world for having been placed in this situation. Due to these special circumstances, it takes a certain skill set from the adult to make the adoption successful.
The ideal adult who has success at foster care adoption generally has a lot of patience and a giving and caring nature. Kids that have spent time in foster care have a different world view than their counterparts and the adult needs to recognise this and be able to cope with it while maintaining an emotional balance.
Surprisingly, it is often beneficial to have the child establish contact with his or her birth parents during the time the foster care adoption is taking place. It is generally thought that this communication allows the child to better understand the circumstances leading up to the decision to put the child in foster care to begin with. When the child understands that things were being done for his benefit, he can achieve a sense of closure that he would otherwise not get.
There are other common traits shared by family units that had a successful foster care adoption. Some of these are a good sense of humor to get through the hard times, the ability to impart a general feeling of acceptance to one’s situation, and getting involved with the child’s social life. These qualities are imperative if a properly functioning family unit is to be formed. The adoptive parents need to have and be able to demonstrate these qualities to the adoption agency in order to be granted the adoption.